Long distance relationships are more common nowadays than someone would expect. The way people travel all around the globe and the existence of internet in our everyday lives, makes it easier and more likely to fall in love with a person that lives many miles away, and sometimes on a different continent. Long distance relationships do work, as long as both people are willing to try. There are certain rules that help LDRs to stay strong and healthy.
It is very important that you clarify from the start, what you expect from this relationship. Is it going to be just an online communication or do you both want more out of this? Are you both going to be faithful or do you want to see other people and let fate decide what will happen with your long distance romance? Making sure you are on the same page, creates a strong foundation, builds trust in each other and saves both of you from future drama and heartache.
Discuss and plan if possible, when and under what circumstances you will be able to unite and live in the same area. This is will arm you with lots of patience and courage. Feeling that your LDR is something temporary, can fill you both with hope and expectations and make the time you spend apart seem less painful.
Keep in touch every day. It doesn’t have to be a conversation for hours on the phone. It could be a small gesture that would show your partner that you are thinking of them. It is amazing how successful a short text message, e-mail, note, letter or even a fax can be when it comes to keeping your long distance romance alive. Try to use every available method of communication like webcams and cell phones and find ways to see each other online in real time. Just remember that being apart is not always a negative thing. Not being able to be with your partner physically, can actually improve your communication with them, because you both learn to listen. That’s an essential rule for every relationship.
Try to see each other as often as possible. To make a distance relationship work, you have to build it on a great foundation and be ready to make sacrifices. When you meet, try to make it very special and avoid arguing. Make an effort to meet in a different place every time, creating beautiful memories that will make your relationship even stronger. Having a great time when you are together, will keep you going and longing for those moments.
It is very important that you reassure each other as the distance can cause many doubts that eventually - if left to grow - will evolve into problems hard to overcome. When you talk on the phone, share the everyday little things. This helps create and maintain a level of intimacy and is a way to learn about each other more. A conversation about a common experience or a common friend can always bring you closer.
Another important aspect that keeps a LDR strong and healthy is trust. Being doubtful and jealous will eventually tear you apart. It is vital that you make your relationship a top priority, and you don’t neglect arranging to see each other or returning phone calls, as such behavior feeds any existing doubts or mistrust.
One thing you need to remember is that long distance relationships, as every other relationship, are built on faith, love and understanding. Although they need a little more effort because of the distance factor, it is possible to make them work and lead them to a very happy ending.
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